Healing is NOT a Destination

Healing is not a destination.

We all so desperately want to be healed, to feel better.  Some of us want another box checked off of our to do list.  It may look something like this, "Man, I am a perfectionist.  It gets in my way and I am never really able to accomplish anything.  So I am going to read every book on it, do the work and heal this bad part of my personality".  

Healing is maybe not even possible.  Whoa...what???  I hear you already, I don't agree with that I have healed from lots of different things?  Stay with me now.  What I mean is that healing to many people means that you are over it, that you don't suffer.  That you are better again.  WHat I am saying is that maybe you were never sick, maybe it was never wrong.  The perfectionism that you had to heal from?  Maybe that was just a lesson to help you get in touch with your fear of being wrong, your fear of being unloved.  Maybe that once you realize that it is okay to be wrong.  That you are still loved, that you are still alive and accepted.  Maybe you don't heal, maybe you simply integrate things into your being.  You no longer suffer over them you get to the depths of them and you move on with them as part of you, not a bad or good part just part of you.  

So many of us think that until we heal from this or that we can't be this or that, do this or that.  It really isn't true.  We can still walk on the path towards whatever vision you have with the "wound".  

"The process of making it better again"  What if there was nothing "wrong" with you in the first place.